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The Rabbi Daniel Lapin Podcast
Episode: The Masculinity of Donald Trump: Who Loved it. Who Hated It.
Date: 11/17/24 Length: 00:59:43
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Welcome all you Happy Warriors, and welcome all you loyal listeners to The Rabbi Daniel Lapin show you heroic men enduring the scorching days of summer and the frigid days of winter, going to work early every morning, regardless of the weather, taking care of business and doing what your head tells you to do when your head tells you it must be done. You who ignore your heart's seductive desire to indulge the body's whisper instead, you boldly heed the clarion call of responsibility to those you are strong enough to support and brave enough to care for. You are the army of the righteous. You happy warriors are the noble knights defending the fortress of civilization against the hungry hordes of scheming and surging savages trying to invade and conquer what you and your fathers have built. The barbarians know that even after they destroy the civilization that you built, as they wretchedly crawl through its wrecked ruins, they know that there they will live better than in anything they could ever have built themselves. Only you stand between the nightmare of socialistic slavery and progressive hopelessness and the bright hope of tomorrow and you beautiful and brave women resisting government's treacherous proposal to marry it rather than accepting a golden ring from one clear eyed man dreaming of a shared tomorrow. You gorgeously courageous women who smilingly and graciously carry the load of work, marriage and family, inspiring your man to greatness and nurturing your young ones to moral maturity as well as physical Yes, you men and women, you Happy Warriors who do all this and have done all this. You are the natural audience of the Rabbi Daniel Lapin Show you are the audience I devotedly serve, recognizing that every day that I can bring you the helpful, life affirming insights of ancient Jewish wisdom, well, that is another day of privilege for me. It is indeed my honor to serve you all, and my delight to welcome you to another episode of The Rabbi Daniel Lapin Show, yeah, that's right. This is the only show in the entire digital universe that reveals how the world really works.
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Well, the American presidential election is behind us. Donald Trump sweeps the country in an absolutely historical outcome, and for me, I am confirmed. I am affirmed. I am persuaded that I've been right all along, in my own mind, that what the country needed was somebody who had no compunctions whatsoever about tearing apart the structure that has been laboriously assembled by the left over the last few decades, and when I read the hysterical howls of frenzied fury coming from the New York Times and Atlantic magazine and all the other left wing media. I find that wonderful, the fact that they are outraged at President Trump and the fact that they are outraged at his nominations and appointments. All of that reassures me that he is doing exactly what he was elected to do, and that as he did, largely more than other presidents during his first term, namely, keeping his word. Well, we'll see more of that as well. But what I'm finding interesting is trying to understand who voted for President Trump. You know how, how did that work? Who really were the people who decided that they really wanted to support President Trump. And I thought, you know, we can really do a little bit of analysis here. I think that that could be very, very useful to everybody, I think, and what, what? What is that? It well, two aspects of it, two aspects of the selection. First of all, I would like to look at the rural versus the city, countryside versus City. And here again, what's what's really interesting is California is made up of 58 counties, 22 of them went blue. That means a majority of counties, 36 went red, voted for Trump. So why didn't Trump win California? Why did Harris win California? Well, because the 22 counties that Harris won were the counties along the coastal strip and one little county close to the Nevada border, called Mono County, with 8000 residents, but primarily the coastal strip from Mendocino all the way down to San Diego and the if you look at the red Blue map for the state. As soon as you cross the Sierra mountains and you're in the eastern part of the state, all just a big sea of red. And similarly to New York, right the state in New York's I think 62 counties, 11 of them went blue, New York City, the these counties in which I found, the cities of Buffalo, Syracuse, Rochester, Albany, and obviously New York City, and then the Hudson Valley that that is all that is blue. You look at the rest of the state of New York, all solid red. Colorado went to Harris, and again, you look, there's a strip of Denver and Pueblo, and then a little bit to the southwest, and that's all that goes. Blue. You look at Cheyenne County on the eastern border of Colorado. And I think they went 98% for Donald Trump. So the state of Colorado, geographically wise, solidly red, excepting for the high population urban centers. And so we've got to ask ourselves here, you know, what is going on? Is it that cities make people turn to the left politically, or is it that people of that disposition move to the cities in the United States? And by the way, this analysis, I think, is useful wherever you live, if you know, if you are in in Africa, if you're in Canada, if you're in in China, in for anywhere you're listening from. And I say that because we have happy warriors everywhere now, absolutely everywhere. Happy warriors, if you haven't yet subscribed to the show, now would be a really excellent time to do that. And if you haven't yet become a Happy Warrior member, well, we should encourage you to do that as well, too. All of that at RabbiDaniellapin.com and I would appreciate you taking care of that bit of business right away. And look, it's very cool. I check the subscription figures, if not every day, every couple of days, and it's very uplifting to see that grow and see that increase. And what's more, when we hit certain thresholds, certain magical things happen, as is the way of the internet. So please do go ahead and subscribe. And those of you who have not yet become members of the happy warrior community, please do so. Those who have done so, you know how much I appreciate you, and you know that there will be a special podcast just for you members of the happy warrior community. And I'm going to be talking about a woman who speaks, I mean, she, she moved from New York City to a farm upstate New York. She moved from solid, solid blue democratic territory, and she moved to a rural neighborhood, all red, all conservative farming. She and her husband bought a farm, and she speaks about her experiences, and she also speaks about what happens to their marriage as they are in more of a red community. So I want to tell you about that, because Susan and I both found it absolutely intriguing. At any rate, becoming a member of the Happy Warrior community.
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It's not just about the special bonus podcast that you'll have access to that I'll be talking about what happened to this husband and wife after they left New. Can move to the country, but it's also access to a huge amount of material that turns out to be within it the answers to many of the questions you have. So from time to time, if you've ever wondered, you know, what would ancient Jewish wisdom say about this? What you you can dive into the material that you have access to as a member of the happy warrior community, and do a search, and there you are, and nine times out of 10 you're going to find it if you don't, then again, a feature available to happy warrior members is that you can post your question. And this happens all the time. You post your question on the site, on the discussion forum, and other happy warriors respond, and many of them have encountered exactly what you're dealing with. Sometimes Susan responds, sometimes I do. We spend a fair amount of time on that discussion forum, on the happy warrior community. So at any rate it's worth it's worth doing and and I think you will find, well, you know what, you can experiment. You can give it a shot, and if you don't like it, then you can bail. But at any rate, go to Rabbi Daniel lapin.com and look around, you will quickly find a way to become part of the happy warrior community. And I think that you will enjoy it, and I will enjoy knowing you are there so. So there we are looking at this whole question of who votes. Who voted for President Trump and the Democrats turned out this year to be wrong on almost everything. Abortion just was not the big issue that they thought it was going to be. It just didn't seem to be of concern to people. But who did vote for President Trump? Rural areas, countryside, who voted for the Democrats? Cities and this, this pattern. You know, I studied California, Colorado, New York. But it's true in Illinois, and it's true in in every state. Of the few states that went for Harris, you find that geographically, it all went look 97% I think it's over 90% for sure. I think it's as much as 96 or 97% of the United States land mass is rural. Only a tiny portion of it is actual cities in terms of surface area, square miles. And yet, about 90% of the people live in the urban areas, in the cities and in the areas surrounding the cities. And you see that very clearly in California, where, if you look at it by population, it's like the population is scrunched up against the beach, and the rest of the state is like virtually empty. That's what it looks like. And so people living in the rest of the state, small numbers of them, but they all are conservative. They all voted for Trump. I shouldn't say conservative. I'm just going to say voted for President Trump. And the the the narrow strip of people scrunched up against the beach all voted for Kamala Harris, okay, but that's not the only group. There's another distinction in the voting pattern my friends and and that's why I did the the happy warrior opening again, happy warrior men and happy warrior women. And I make a distinction, right? I didn't do the same thing. I because I depict the ideals. I depict how things could one day be again, maybe, and the ideals that produce most happiness, most fulfillment in people, that's what I depict, even though almost none of us, very few of us, are able to live in exactly those circumstances today. But one thing is clear, and that is that I view as an essential part of a male happy warrior is that he leans towards masculinity, that his his character and his attributes tend toward towards being masculine characters and attributes and Lady happy warriors, I tend to visualize them as tending towards the feminine. Now we're not talking biology. I'm talking about traits. So for instance, Golda Meir, the Prime Minister of Israel in the 70s, and Margaret Thatcher, the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom. These were women who had very strong masculine leadership traits. President Obama, Prime Minister Trudeau, Justin Trudeau of Canada, President Joe Biden in the United States. These are all. More feminine kind of people. Why do I say that? Well, because I don't think I have to tell you about Justin Trudeau. Even his wife, who is a feminine lady, couldn't bear being around him and so and we see exactly the same phenomenon. We find that feminine ladies did not like Obama. Did not like Biden, only lay. In other words, have you heard of the 4b movement? One of the one of our happy warriors? Familiarized me with it. It's, it started in South Korea, and it's, it's spread sort of somewhat into the United States. It basically is a group of women who sort of connect over the internet and they proclaim that they're going to have nothing to do with men, and they're not going to they're not going to marry, they're not going to have babies. They want nothing to do with men at all. And I have said, with regard to them, if they think that there are large crowds of men wailing and weeping, that they will no longer have access to this group of women, they're dreaming because the truth is, these are women who are manless for the most part, and so to to say, well, we're not going to let men into our lives at all, you know, is a little bit like like me saying, you know, I'm not going to fly and flap my arms and travel between cities by myself. No, it's not an option. I can't do that. And so for these women to declare that they're going to have nothing to do with men? Yeah, my point is that there are women who have masculine traits and there are women who have feminine traits and everything in between. So while I'm absolutely emphatic, I am settled on this, that there is no spectrum. There's no gradation in biology. In biology, whether, whether it's animals, vegetables or human, it's male or it's female. However, I will say that in traits, not speaking biology, but I'm speaking about traits. Their traits are definitely on a on a spectrum. And so there are, there are men who have very masculine traits and very little in the way of feminine traits, and they generally don't do well unless they get married to a very smart woman, a wise woman, because then the she can bring down a little bit of the masculinity, because that's needed. Because masculine traits, in its in its in its ultimate a masculine trait is competitiveness to such a degree that you cannot cooperate. Competitiveness to such a degree that it is very easy to be provoked into fighting, physically fighting and and that becomes very, very difficult. On the other hand, men who whose traits are overly feminine, and yes, they're men. They will father children, they will be married, they will have lives, but it also limits exactly how much they can really accomplish, because they lack the right amount of ambition, they they lack the right amount of of drive. And there was a a woman recently who was talking to my friend Dave Ramsey, and she was she was saying that her husband, who's a chemist, a PhD chemist, lost his job, and for the last 13 years he's, he's just been at home, and she's very upset, because she's she's losing, she's losing respect for him, and she's worried about the state of her marriage. That's right, in some way or another, he has his masculinity has been severely damaged. Maybe it was always low, I don't know, but the bottom line is, he's perfectly happy to sit around and wallow in self pity and not solve the problem by going out and getting a job, any job, and so either
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extreme for men is problematic to to be over at the far end of the spectrum line where it's, you know, you're, you're 98% masculine and 2% feminine, it's problematic. And if you're 98% feminine and no percent or 2% masculine, you. It's also problematic now this, there's two pieces of good news here that I want you to understand. And you know that what I tell you is not from ancient Jewish wisdom, and it's not from the pages of the Scientific American, because the pages of the Scientific American have lost all credibility the editor of the Scientific American went on an anti Trump rampage. The magazine endorsed the magazine in 100 and what's 170 years or so, has never endorsed a political candidate as it shouldn't. Scientific American strong endorsement for Harris and his literally a hysterical outburst from the editor after Trump won. And this is true, the lancet magazine used to be a respected medical magazine. A lot of people who sort of seen themselves as spokesman for science have actually revealed that they are really spokesman for scientism, which is a wrong headed belief system that everything can be resolved, everything can be understood, everything can be settled, everything can be answered by science. And yeah, simply not true. So, so two good pieces of information for men who are at one end or another end of the spectrum. The one piece of good news is that if you pick a wife wisely, then you and your wife build a new unit that is not any longer 98% masculine, and she's maybe 98% feminine. But something else comes together, and the the two of you learning to share decisions, right? One of the hardest things for guys to get used to, and I was there myself when, when I first got married to Susan, and that is, it's very hard to get used to saying to people, I'll check with my wife. People say, Well, you know, can you do this? Would you like to do this? The salesman says, Would you like to buy this car? Would you like to drive this car home today? And the answer is, I'll check with my wife, and then he's going to try and imply, what sort of man are you that doesn't that can't make his own decisions? Got to check with his wife? You know, the answer is, I'm a man who knows how marriages work, and I treat my wife with the same respect that I expect her to treat me. So you know, jointly, husband and wife are likely to make better decisions, that a husband is entirely on his own, or a woman is entirely on her own. So one piece of good news is there's a thing called marriage. There's another piece of good news that that might be even more important, and that is that there are behaviors, there are actions, there are exercises, there are things you can actually do which increase masculinity, and exercise you can do which increase femininity. And so one has to know that we as human beings are very shaped by the things we do, much more than by the things we think. Yes, our actions will then impact the way we think. Let me give you an example which you've probably seen many times yourself. Somebody was a heavy smoker, and he decided to stop, and he went cold turkey, never touched another cigarette. He generally will turn out to be a very vocal and and very strident anti smoking advocate. And it's, if you think about it, you knew him well while all this was going on. It's not that he stopped smoking because he became a strident anti smoking advocate. He became a strident anti smoking advocate because of the enormously significant physical action of stopping to smoke, the exercise of that discipline causes a change in personality and outlook and thought and opinion. It really does, and this has something to do with what happens to people who move from the city to the country, and what happens to people who move from the country to the city. There are things we do that really impact the way we think, and this is an important point to understand, because the ordinary cry from the ignoramus is I can't help but I think. I think what I think I can't help but I think, and I often hear this when I initially have conversations with men who have asked me to coach them marriage wise, and one of their problems is, fantasize. Sing, and they they go into flights of fantasy about the woman they'd really like to be, like to be with, who is nothing like their wife, and they contrast their wife all the time with the fantasy women they imagine, or even worse, the fantasy women that they look at in virtual imagery. So I say no, this is not true, because there's a very important point in the 10 Commandments to be more specific, commandment number 10, and commandment number 10 is you must not desire COVID Or want the possessions of somebody else. And the initial response to that is, what are you talking about? I'm not doing any harm to anybody. I'm not taking their stuff. We've already covered that in commandments number six and seven and eight, not to take away possessions of other people, nor to take away the wives or husbands of other people, not to take away the life of other people. We've already covered all that, and I can understand, obviously, to have a civilized society, we have to have people agreeing to not take away things that belong to other people. Got it. But what about the strange, strange commandment number 10, do not covet the possessions of your friend and neighbor. What am I supposed to do? I mean, you know, I see his Lamborghini sports car, and I think to myself, I want that. I can't help but I think, yes, you can, because the good Lord would not have asked us to do something that is physically impossible, right? It would never do that. Right? Nowhere. Nowhere in Scripture does God command His children, please do not eat or drink for five days, from the fourth of march to the ninth of March. Every year, you must not eat or drink. No, you would never do that, because it can't be done. And similarly, you wouldn't be asked to control your thoughts if you are not able to do that. And so yes, we are able to control our thoughts. And when we act in certain specific ways, our thoughts move into synchronicity with our actions, because our bodies and souls, our beings reject cognitive dissonance. We reject the pain of conflicting ideas, we tend to want to try and smooth those out. And so it becomes really important to understand that a man who feels he lacks enough masculinity that he should have and I, I have worked with men like that, they have to know that there are actions and activities that they can undertake, there are things they can specifically do On a regular basis which will dramatically change the nature of their traits, it will make them more masculine. Oddly enough, by the way, in many people, it also has an impact. In many men, it has an impact on T level, on testosterone level, but that's another discussion. It's not important for now. What you can't do is take testosterone injections and assume that that will solve the problem. There are actually things we have to do likewise. You know, there are women who are very masculine, and that's a problem. It's a problem in their interactions with husbands and their interaction with children, and then you got women who are too feminine. So what is the problem with being too feminine? What is the difficulty and challenge there? Well, it's it can make women feel irrational sometimes, and even behave that way to the point where it hinders relationships and it hinders healthy functioning. And yet, there is such a thing,
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a woman being too masculine as much is a problem women being too feminine, you want to be at the right place for you, which may not be the same as the place for another woman, and similarly for men. So you know, how do we regulate again, in normal, healthy living? It isn't necessary to actively regulate it, because your lifestyle contains the behaviors and activities that natural. We keep your traits where they should be the right level, mostly masculine for men, mostly feminine for women, but not 100% you won't be shocked to hear that that kind of living is more prevalent on a farm than in a city, and this, this kind of discordancy, this kind of ambivalence between city and country, is something that The culture acknowledges as being of interest and being significant. If you think of movies, I'm thinking of a movie like Crocodile Dundee, and this is going back years, and I am sure there are probably more contemporary movies that do the same thing. And if you if you know of any please on the we happy warriors membership site, please let me know, because I couldn't think of a more recent movie. But years ago, Crocodile Dundee, an Australian film. Crocodile day Dundee in New York City. And it was hilarious, at least I found it there, because the whole conceit was this cowboy type guy from the Australian outback walking the streets of New York City. And there's this clash between the values and the outlook and the understanding that he has acquired in his normal background, in his real life, and now is New York City, and to Him, nothing makes sense. And there was also a movie called City Slickers, as starring Billy Crystal was in that and Jack Palance, the late great, the late great actor, Jack Palance, and this is again, three city guys working as cowboys in the southwest, in Mexico and Colorado and and again, really interesting. And plans plays curly this old, hardened cowboy, you know, the real, real, heavily masculine guy and and part of the the the humor unstated in the movie is that the three guys, the three friends from New York who go out to help with this cattle, round up. They're feminine guys. Their traits are very feminine. You and you see it. The movie wisely doesn't over dramatize that, but you you get the point very quickly. And and Jack polans stands in as the symbol of masculinity, and it's this tension between the two. There was a TV show that did well for a number of years called Northern Exposure, filmed in the state of Washington, but meant to represent a remote small town in Alaska called Sicily, I think, anyway, not important. But what is important is a very neurotic, feminine New York doctor, a guy. I forget his name, but he by by a variety of funny circumstances having to do with his, with with having his medical education financed by the state of Alaska, he now has to do a number of years of service in this small, little town in the wilds of Alaska. And again, you know, he's a New York Jewish doctor. And again, they lay it on a bit thick, but you look at him and you say, you know, this is a very feminine guy. He's too feminine for a guy, and I'm stressing again, and 100% masculine traits in a guy doesn't work. It's no good. But the this New York Jewish neurotic Doctor Who takes a job in this Alaskan outback. Again, you've got this clash between the independence and self reliance and strength and competence of these Alaska Natives, and against that is this is something you get all the time in both directions. You know, crocodile, Dundee coming into New York and the other way around the New York guys going out to become cowboys. This is a real thing. Let me ask you this. Think about this for just a second before I give you the answer. In terms of characteristics, as I've been talking about, right male politicians can have very feminine nature, natures Obama, you know, Obama much, much too feminine the way he treated Iraq. Give them the money, give them what they asked for. How many generations? Of girls from time immemorial have dealt with the thuggish guy believing that they would tame him. They would change him by giving in to him, by yielding to him. And that's exactly what President Obama did with Iraq. Yielded to whatever they wanted. He gave in to them on the nuclear deal. He gave in to them on giving releasing them billions of dollars, all to make them like him. No, love him didn't work. Never does, but that's the mistake that overly feminine characters do make President Biden very feminine. What's his reaction every time the hooties attacked and shot up another ship in the Red Sea, he wagged his finger at them like a school man, and he said, don't really that's if you're not American and you're not familiar with what happened over the last few years in the American White House. It sounds preposterous. You can't really believe it, but that's exactly the word he did. He he wagged his finger at the television camera, and he said, I have one word for the hooties. Don't again. Since time immemorial, girls have wagged their fingers at bad boys and said, Don't stop that. Yeah, one as a man, you can develop feminine characteristics and feminine traits that make you ill equipped to deal with the real world and and similarly in in the other direction, I I'm trying to think, you know, as I said, Golda Meir and Margaret Thatcher were two excellent examples of women. In the case of Margaret Thatcher a very, a very feminine lady, but her characteristics, her traits, her mode of operation was masculine, and she was very, very good at it. And so in the same way that we ignore the biology, right? It's It's important when we deal with people, whether it is for romantic purposes, with romantic intent, or whether it's for business purposes, or even if it's just socially, it's important in your own mind to be able to look at a person, talk to them for a little bit and say, Okay, I've got to realize this is a woman, but she tends towards the masculine side, and therefore I have to know how to most effectively interact with her on, you know, on A business level, because you interact very differently with somebody who with a woman who is whose characteristics are very feminine, as you do with a with a woman whose characteristics are more masculine, and vice versa. Although in the higher ranks of business, you don't find that many men who tend towards the feminine, for obvious reasons, right? Because one of the attributes of femininity is a lack of of drive, lack of competitiveness, a lack of of financial ambition. In that way,
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there's a study I often do when I am speaking with a group, you know, a fairly large group of men and women in a seminar. One of the things I do is I say to them, okay, you you know you're couples, even if you're not, I want you to imagine that you if you're a man, you got a wife. If your wife, you have a husband. If you really do so much the better. And let's imagine you're a stay at home mom or wife, and your husband works. And let's imagine now that he's been offered a 60% salary increase, big salary increase. The only thing is that he's now going to have to be away from home for a certain number of days a month. That's part of the deal. He has new responsibilities at work, and I give out cards, and I say, I want each of you to put your gender on the card, write down if you're a man or woman, and then I want you to say, how many days a week would you accept as the price of a 60% increase in the take home pay of you if you're a guy or if your husband, if you're a woman. And and I, I write down in advance to show people that I anticipated the outcome. And I always, I'm always right on this is no big deal. If you thought about it, you'd see right away all the women will, almost without exception, put down lower numbers than men. Men are willing to make more of a sacrifice of marriage and family time in exchange for a 60% salary increase. And women are weighing it up and saying, wait a second. 60% salary increase. Very nice cost. To the marriage and the family, not very nice. I'm going to lower it. And so the numbers are really always fascinating. The male numbers always higher than female numbers. That's right. There's nothing wrong with it. That is exactly how men and women do think differently. And it's correct, right? It's fine. It's worthwhile understanding that is a reality. So when I said we're going to I'm going to pose a question to you, and I want you to think for a second or two what the answer is, just as it's possible to easily identify feminine or masculine characteristics in a man or a woman that you are talking to in the same way. I want to ask you, which do you think is masculine and which do you think is feminine in city and rural areas? Do you think cities are more masculine than countryside, the farms, or do you think farms are more masculine than cities? What do you think? Have you made up your mind? The answer is, cities are feminine by their nature. Really? What are you talking about? Well, let me explain. Cities are feminine by their nature, because when you come into the city. Everything the city provides for you. There's transport right outside your door. You want water, you turn on the faucet. You want light. You turn on the light switch. Everything is there for you. But when you are in the farmland, you want water, you got to dig a well, or you got to look for a river. You want light, you must start a generator, or you must light a fire. You want transport, you better take good care of your horse, or of your Jeep, or whatever it is, because it's all up to you. It's an important distinction. You see, cities are feminine. Now I have a little bit of an advantage over you, because I know the Lord's language. The Lord's language is Hebrew, and it's the original language in which the Old Testament, the Tanakh, is written. And in Hebrew, every noun has a gender. And so all I had to do was go to see whether the Hebrew word for city, which is the word ear, if I had to transliterate transcribe it, I'd write it i are ear. I've just got to check to see the adjectives that are used in conjunction with the word city. Are they masculine or feminine? Well, they're always feminine. The word City is a feminine noun in Hebrew, and that's the the point I'm making. And you may think of other reasons, by the way, and again, please use the happy warrior website to tell me if you think of other reasons. There are many other reasons for why you can know that a city is a more feminine place, but the farmland, the countryside, the forests, that is more masculine. Another distinction in masculine and feminine qualities is that it is masculine to be able to master things, and then to a lesser extent ideas, and to a lesser extent people. And so yeah, I think most married men would agree that if they were not married, they would be very lonely, because it is their wives that retain contact with family members, retain social relationships, maintain social obligations, all of these things you know. And you know when, when a young guy is is growing up, is 16, is 18, is 21 is 23 you know, he does his thing. If he wants to live in an RV, he goes off and lives in an RV or van. If he wants to live on a boat, somewhere in an estuary or in a he goes ahead and does it. But it pretty soon becomes clear that although he has a circle of friends and he sees them, maybe he goes to the same hamburger restaurant every night, or he goes to a bar, but essentially, he is not participating in any of the social life for the most part. And I've known a lot of guys like this. They, you know, you ask them, when was the last time you went to a funeral? When was the last time you went to console somebody who buried a loved one? When was the last time you went to a wedding? When was the last time you went to some kind of of social event, confirmation, or whatever it is? And you ages go by, then the guy gets married, and all of a sudden you now. Asking the question, oh, yeah, sure, you know we were at a funeral four weeks ago, absolutely, because being married means you are now part you are partnered with someone for whom human connection is very important. So with men, the connections we feel strongest about are connections to things and ideas. And with women, it's people ideas and then things can again, think about that, and you'll see exactly why that works just the way it does. And so people who voted for Donald Trump, they were either men who were comfortable with masculinity and women who had men in their lives. In other words, married women overwhelmingly supported Trump. People who supported the Democrats, don't forget a very feminine White House, a very, very feminine candidate. Whether Harris is male or female, is irrelevant, but Biden is feminine, and Harris is whatever she is. And the end result is that single women, women who had no strong, good relationship with men. Don't like men. It's those women who coined the whole craze of toxic masculinity. I mean, show me a woman who has nothing to do with men, and she is living in a grass hut or a cave that she finds unless she is urbanized. If she's in a city, guess what? She doesn't need a man in the city. And that's a very important point. In the city, if something is broken, the fuse goes out, you call a guy. The air conditioning stops working. You call a guy. The car stops. Your transport stops working. You call a guy, in this case, the AAA, whatever it is. But in the country, when you're in a rural area, you are the guy makes a huge difference. And so in the city, it's easy for women to mouth foolish platitudes, like a woman needs a man, like a fish needs a bicycle. Ha, ha, ha. Very funny, because, yes, you're right. In the city, she actually doesn't need a man. But in real life, in the country, a woman without a man doesn't survive very long, and a man without a woman also not a pretty sight. I do hope I'm making this reasonably clear as we're moving along here, right by the way, I just want to reiterate something I've mentioned. I really do know that what I'm saying can be regarded as highly offensive by many people, very offensive what you say, Oh, You're offending me.
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I realize that. And all that's happening is that if you are somebody who is feeling very offended by the things I'm saying, that is a clear indication that your values have been shaped not by authenticity, but by city culture. Your values have been shaped by progressivism. Your values have been shaped by socialism. Your values have been shaped by wokeism, and so obviously the things I say are offensive and it's not. It's not enough. You can't contradict me simply by saying it's offensive, because that doesn't mean I'm necessarily wrong. It just means you may be too thin skinned, and so you're being offensive is not a rebuttal of what I'm telling you to say, Don't you realize we're living in the 21st century? Don't you realize it's nearly 2025 those sort of things are no longer believed anymore. That's not a way to refute an idea. To simply say it's old fashioned. That doesn't mean that it's false. So I say it all of what I'm saying, I say with enormous respect and regard for happy warriors listening, because I don't feel that I have to gentle up my words for you. I don't feel that I've got to pretty them up. I don't feel I've got to restrain myself for fear of offending you, I feel that I can talk directly with you and talk straightly with you, and I'm very aware of how remarkable that is, because the culture out there has pretty much successfully persuaded large numbers of people that to even notice differences. But. Between men and women is outlandish. To actually talk about them is completely, completely ridiculous. So here we are not only noticing them, but talking about them absolutely and in a political sense, in the context of Justin Trudeau or Obama or Biden being all very feminine in nature. By contrast, you've got Elon Musk, who's obviously very tightly connected to the Trump victory. What is Elon Musk, if not masculine? Right? Now, again, I'm not talking biology. I'm talking and I'm not talking about anything measurable by an instrument. I'm talking about the feeling you get when you read about him. He's able to challenge things. He doesn't feel confined by conformity or complacency. In other words, he's a happy warrior. He laughs at adversity. And don't you all do that? You're happy warriors, don't you laugh at adversity. That is a masculine trait. I'm talking about the men being able to stand firm against relentless hostility, right? It's masculine when you see a problem. It's masculine to want to solve it, and, as it were, to be willing to die in the attempt I will solve this problem. But that's not a feminine way of a pro a feminine way of dealing with a problem is talking, discussing, negotiating, accommodating, if necessary. It's very different. Both needed equally. And that's why a good marriage is such a marvelous thing, because it effectively channels the necessary masculine energy or feminine energy as needed in any particular set of circumstances. It's really wonderful. It's really, really a great thing, and so clear that as well as being a struggle between urban and rural, as well as being a struggle between city and country, this last election was also between masculinity and femininity. Donald Trump clearly masculine like him or not a masculine personality when he was shot, the iconic photograph is the female Secret Service agent cowering beneath Trump, and Trump is struggling to his feet. His defiant fist is raised heavenwards, and he's calling out, fight, fight, if that is not an iconic masculine moment. I don't know what is it really is. And so this unflinching determination in the face of implacable hostility, very masculine, the defiance in the wake of the assassination attempt, very masculine. So these qualities, self respect, strength, these are masculine qualities and and having Donald Trump and Elon Musk sort of standing on the stage on was it late Wednesday last late Tuesday night last week. That really signified a very powerful shift in American culture. It was a return to strong, confident, ambitious, resilient masculinity. It's terrific. And we're not all about superficial masculinity, masculinity of the macho gangster and the bravado, that is where it's too much. That's where it's 100% masculinity. And that doesn't work. It's off putting and it's destructive. But self sacrifice, confidence, determination, great will, yeah, those are the things that are being brought to the table by the masculine side of the of the debate. It's, it's fascinating, action, action that is fight, says Donald Trump, right, exactly. So blood on his face. He's pumping his fist in the air, rising to his feet after being pulled down by Secret Service agents who did absolutely nothing to protect him in Butler, Pennsylvania back in July, I think it was so so you think about a little bit, what are these characteristics of becoming a man once, something very important is that, you know, and there's a difference, again, between man and woman. And nobody says, Woman up, become a woman. But people say to their sons all the time, become. A man be a man. Man up because it's understood that women acquire femininity almost automatically. Men do not require acquire masculinity automatically. Masculinity is courage, lack of masculinity cowardice. But the natural default condition for men is to grow up cowardly, they've got to be taught the virtue of the masculine virtue of courage and, and, and this is why it's so important to understand that a boy does not become a man. He does not become a masculine being automatic, automatically, just by physically maturing, a woman does she physically matures and becomes a woman. A man does not become a man just by maturing. Society has to demand a standard from him, and very often it's a standard that goes against his natural inclination towards laziness and avoiding danger. We acculturate Boys Into Men and societies that fail to do that do not last long. Really, really important to to get these, these ideas across. I mentioned earlier on, the Scientific American used to be very masculine magazine, and now it's not, not just because its editor is a woman. What is her name? Laura, Laura Helmuth, that's that's her name. That's not the reason the magazine has become feminine. It's become feminine because of the kind of articles it now publishes, masculinity includes objective. It's less masculine to say, Oh, I feel it's more feminine to say, I feel, legitimately for a feminine attribute. There's
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nothing wrong with that. In the same way, when a man says, I am confident that this is, I don't feel that this is, I'm confident that it is, I think it is, I believe it is. But again, these are different characteristics of masculinity and femininity. Risk taking. It's interesting that President Reagan was a masculine president, President George W Bush, the juries, and I'm not absolutely sure that one, but to some extent. But it's still interesting that the critical feminine press of the world, yes, the woke media, is very feminine, and they called publicly. They used to call Reagan the cowboy, and George W Bush also the cowboy. So for them, there was a term of denigration, oh, he's a risk taking cowboy. And they meant that as a, you know, to denigrate, but again, to to any red blooded, masculine male, the cowboy image is a good one. The guy on the on the horse, looking at the sunset, smoking Marlboro cigarettes. Yeah, that that's right, it's, it's really, really, very significant. So there it is. We gotta, we gotta understand the difference, and we've got to understand that in some interesting way, the urban vote corresponded to the feminine side, and the countryside, the rural vote for Trump corresponded to the masculine side. And it's, again, no accident that you look at Trump and it's masculine you look at the candidacy of the Obama, Biden Harris ticket, and yes, it is very feminine. So you get the idea. And I hope I've given you something to think about here, and something to help you when you analyze circumstances in which you find yourself, just be aware that regardless of whether the person you're talking to is in a dress or in pants, regardless of whether she's a woman or he's a man, there are attributes, there are characteristics that are masculine and feminine, and it is helpful to be able to know the difference between them and to understand the differences between them. So ladies and gentlemen, until next week. This is your rabbi reminding you that it is time for each and every one of us to make progress onwards and upwards with our families and our finances and our faith and our friendships and our fitness have a wonderful week. God bless you.
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